20 Sep Here’s How to Practice Self-Care…
…Without Feeling Selfish
Putting yourself first doesn’t always come easily, especially if you’re so used to putting your family and loved ones before all else. Focusing on your own goals, fears, and feelings is often confused with being selfish – but I’m here to tell you that it’s the opposite!
The Opposite of Being Selfish
Caring for yourself gives you the chance to reflect, recuperate, and really step into your own as a balanced, calm, and positive person. Not caring for yourself, however, could lead to eventual burn-out or resentment, which will eventually affect not just you, but also the people around you! Learning how to practice self-care without feeling selfish might take some time, but when you follow the next steps, you’ll be on your way to being able to put you first.
Step 1: Be Aware of Your Self
You deserve to feel happy, appreciated, and loved, but some actions, thoughts, and words might make you feel the opposite. Self-care is about recognizing the situations, triggers, habits and more that might be making you feel less than loving towards yourself.
Step 2. Stop!
When you notice these situations or habits, stop yourself right there and then.
Step 3. Remove Yourself
Walk away, start a different task, or get out of the room entirely by going for a walk. Whatever you do, make sure that it shifts the energy that was contributing to that negative feeling.
Step 4. Reconnect With What Matters
Now that you’ve put some distance between yourself and the situation, it’s time to check in. How are you feeling? How do you feel about how you handled the situation? Take note of your feelings and thoughts as you reconnect.
Step 5. Create A Gratitude List
When you feel more grounded, take a minute to make a list of the things that you’re grateful for at that moment, even if it’s just being able to make a cup of tea.
Step 6. Take The Time to Transform
Use your new positive feeling to reimagine the negative thoughts and feelings that you just had. How can you look at them in a more positive light by using “I deserve”, “I can” and “I want” statements?
Step 7. Make A Daily Priority List
Congratulations! If you were able to get through the first 6 steps, you’re a self-care sensation. If you had some trouble, don’t worry. You’ve got the chance to keep working. To make sure that you’re continuously practicing selfcare, remember to:
- Start your day with your ideal morning routine
- Take a few minutes to prioritize your tasks for the day
- Create one action or step where you focus on practicing selfcare without feeling selfish
- Remember to stay aware of the different situations and feelings you experience throughout the day
Start Loving You
If you’d like to learn more about practicing selfcare, then visit our functional wellness center or contact us today for a free discovery call!